the afterglow of our sexual acrobatics (excerpt from eat your heart out)

Our Sexuality is the portal of union and communion in this world with God, with others, with our true selves as image-bearers of God, and with the world.

Because that’s what we’re seeking: a way to be whole, to be un-separate, to find ourselves.

Of course, there are many distractions along the way – especially concerning our sexuality.

Many of us, for example, try to find complete wholeness through sex. But this is an illusion. Sex itself, having sex with another person, is not able to supply what we need.

No one ever believes this, though; we all seem pathologically incapable of grasping the fact that no orgasm is good enough, big enough, quick (or slow) enough, or repeated often enough to cure the sense of isolation we feel.

As soon as it’s over, we feel alone again, unless we are Loved.

But – again – no one believes this.

Sex is so much fun, it’s easy to put off the bothersome tidbit of loneliness we feel in the afterglow of our acrobatics. But the more we live the more we require to stave off that feeling. We have become a culture of sex addicts – always needing another quick fix – in order to just make it through another day.